Be sure to checkout the Master-Mind Challenge now! You’re not alone <3 XOXO, is it possible for a man to just keep on rebounding? You’re fabulous, thank you for your wonderful words of inspiration and encouragement. He continues to lie and be in denial on his actions and claiming he still loves me but won’t let go of what he has. I became wiser than I was months before. It’s only been a month, and she’s already with him. Hello Natasha! Can this article work the other way around, let’s say if my ex-girlfriend is the one who rebounded and I’m stuck still thinking about what could’ve been? XOX. XOX. Thanks for reading! would love to hear your words of wisdom to get me through this . . Or maybe dating one girl after another is just some sort of sport/hobby to him since he’s so obsessed trying to pursue someone/something that’s hard to get. As a result, it can sure assist you ignore the discomfort. If the loss of a spouse is due to divorce rather than death, there can be the added dimension of bitterness and emotional turmoil caused by the breakup of the relationship. Wow. As a misguided attempt to move on with your life, you may jump back into the dating scene for fear of being alone. So I’m not quite sure what to think about it. I literally laughed out loud when you outlined the traits of a rebound and checked off each and every one. Thank you for this blog, it has reaffirmed my thoughts on my situation. Thank you for this article! You are understood, loved, supported, backed, believed in and never, ever alone. So happy the blag has helped! My ex and I broke up 2 months ago and I left the country to be with my family and loved ones but all my belongings are still at our old apartment. I unloaded on him that night with over 70 evil hateful text messages to which he only replied “I didn’t lie to you”. Thanks Elize xx. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through this all. But I guess he didn’t wanna give it his all. Since then we were going back and forth him dragging me along and putting me on the back burner until i finally decided to stop contact. All my love to you soul sister. This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship and usually results in someone being "used" and, subsequently, getting hurt. I feel so used.. he been apologizing but at the same time changes his story a little by little- now it turns out he never loved me.. All I know now is that this is the fourth woman in a row that he been living with, between every break-up there been max 2 months period when his in a new relationship.. Far as no contact not seeing him it’s hard we was together for nine yrs. He followed my bestfriend instagram and changed his profile picture with his new girl when he knows my bestfriend will report back to me right away which she did. I’m so happy that the post helped. If anyone has suggestions on how to handle this I would greatly appreciate it. We had our ups and downs. I’ve been having tremendous difficulty the last month & a half especially, coming to terms with his fuckboy-ness, seeing him post pics being with this blonde 12 years younger than him, out getting hammered, her in his hoodie from last night, etc. I love him. I am living my life and not reacting in any way, but it’s driving me nuts! So, i reach out to find out why someone would make this kind of decision as a man point of view? The link to it is on the homepage. Keep coming back here to the blog - it WILL help. Please let me know what you think in regards to his relationship with the homie, where he stands with me, and if you think he will reconnect with me. Thanks Tracey! xo. Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to share Linda. He can’t deal with life without the rebound object. Just disengage now and stick to it. Or, whether you wish to hang around with many different people for awhile. I’m pissed at how he could just fritter away four years with my children and I and rebound so quickly. Before we move on in this article consider this affirmation I’ve put together from lesson of A Course in Miracles; which can be used in mindfulness meditation. The reason that they usually result in an epic fail is because of the very distraction they provide. You dodged a bullet. Compared to the mature conversation we had, this all of a sudden seemed immature and out of character. We now have only been divorced for 3 months. It means everything to me. Rebound relationships are a specific type of toxic relationship that forms quickly after a breakup. Sure, due to the fact that both parties anticipate too much from the promises each has made. He went on vacation right towards the very end of our relationship and the whole time he was worried about me and wanted to see me well he came back from vacation and the relationship was better than ever. So, they started to look for someone else to fool. Likewise, proving their individual worth. She’s flaunting this brand spanking new relationship all over social media, something she never used to do. Just because a love relationship is over doesn’t suggest you are prepared for the next one. I’ve noted you posted this in 2016. Thank you for this article. It’s helped me so much! Instead of dealing with their emotions in a healthy way, they chose to get involved in a rebound relationship because that’s what emotionally unintelligent, toxic people who are incapable of empathy DO. But I’m so hurt by all this. I am happy that the post helped. It then becomes much easier to subscribe to the story that our ex is new and improved. I thought my now ex was having some alone time, after we had a difficult time, we hadn’t officially broken up. Hi! You definitely have helped me see things clearer with who my ex is and what I truely deserve just by reading your blogs. Cathy Meyer is a certified divorce coach, marriage educator, freelance writer, and founding editor of I blocked him. You go girl So happy it helped! Is it possible to rebound back to the same girl?! There certainly isn’t one right way to enter a new relationship. I know this article is couple years old, but it helped me to calm down. She can offer him nothing but a discount on gas and maybe some stale donuts leftover from the day. Why do i continue to bother with the D**khead is beyond me. Have fun with that! Then all of a sudden he questioned me on why I texted him, and after I told him my intentions (which were completely innocent) he said his girlfriend did not want him talking to me.